Le sigh
Things have been particularly slow at work today; I spent some time reading the online blog of a friend of mine from high school. Her eldest daughter is my godchild (who just turned 13!) I haven't actually seen them for a few years, and I am horrified to say that we haven't even taken the time to speak to each other for a long while.
I realize communication is a two way street, and all though I haven't done my full share either, I have been sending birthday cards for both her and my god daughter. Most of the time, when important things happen, one usually shares them. Correct?
You can see then why I was slightly offended when I read in her public journal that in the last three years, she had gotten married, and had another child. Things that she apparently didn't feel it was necessary to share with me specifically.
I guess I have been fooling myself into thinking that all old friendships can keep themselves going without constant contact.
This makes me sad; I would have loved to been able to share in the excitement for her new marriage and new child, but her world has seemed to shrink to the people who are in her life on a daily basis. I know that life can overtake you and I don't expect to be in the know for everything going on, but a word now and again would be nice. Especially when it is so life altering!
I feel myself chomping at the proverbial bit and wanting to send her a guilt ridden email full of accusatory griping, but I can't bring myself to do that. I don't play a guilt card very well. So I will suffer at my own silence, and pay the consequence for no longer being an active part of her daily life, as apparently, since I am not in her face everyday, I am no longer viable. So much for the last 16 years!
Okay, I am getting down off the cross now. Somebody else can use the wood.
I realize communication is a two way street, and all though I haven't done my full share either, I have been sending birthday cards for both her and my god daughter. Most of the time, when important things happen, one usually shares them. Correct?
You can see then why I was slightly offended when I read in her public journal that in the last three years, she had gotten married, and had another child. Things that she apparently didn't feel it was necessary to share with me specifically.
I guess I have been fooling myself into thinking that all old friendships can keep themselves going without constant contact.
This makes me sad; I would have loved to been able to share in the excitement for her new marriage and new child, but her world has seemed to shrink to the people who are in her life on a daily basis. I know that life can overtake you and I don't expect to be in the know for everything going on, but a word now and again would be nice. Especially when it is so life altering!
I feel myself chomping at the proverbial bit and wanting to send her a guilt ridden email full of accusatory griping, but I can't bring myself to do that. I don't play a guilt card very well. So I will suffer at my own silence, and pay the consequence for no longer being an active part of her daily life, as apparently, since I am not in her face everyday, I am no longer viable. So much for the last 16 years!
Okay, I am getting down off the cross now. Somebody else can use the wood.
Labels: the odd stories in life
posted by Tara at 11:56 AM
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